i kind of like it, myself, at least to some extent. if i'm into someone the tension that comes from "the dance" can be very nice. if one person isn't into it, though...all kinds of badness can ensue.
frankly, i think people are afraid of the emotional intimacy that comes from really good sex (and leads to more of it). including myself. vulnerability is scary, and we are culturally conditioned to avoid that kind of vulnerability. rugged individualism, don't need noone but myself, and all that. on the other hand, that kind of intimacy benefits from time and trust. when someone (like mr. sexual presence, for example) doesn't respect a very basic boundary, all kinds of red flags go up.
so how goes the move across the mountains? you there yet?
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Re: Sexual desire... feh.
Date: 2005-08-17 08:28 am (UTC)frankly, i think people are afraid of the emotional intimacy that comes from really good sex (and leads to more of it). including myself. vulnerability is scary, and we are culturally conditioned to avoid that kind of vulnerability. rugged individualism, don't need noone but myself, and all that. on the other hand, that kind of intimacy benefits from time and trust. when someone (like mr. sexual presence, for example) doesn't respect a very basic boundary, all kinds of red flags go up.
so how goes the move across the mountains? you there yet?