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So I, out of idle curiousity, clicked on

glaucon's profile and saw the U of D graduation. I grew up in Newark, DE, where the school is. I don't know why it surprises me to find that anyone else has Delaware ties.

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no way, you grew up there? several of his friends from u of d also live here. he also has a merc membership.

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shellefly.livejournal.com

Glad you made it home safely!
It was wonderful meeting you and I'm looking forward to seeing you again in about a month.

How was Chamberspot?

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there's a surprising number of delaware people in seattle.
where'd you go to high school?
I probably know some other people who went there.

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I dropped out early ( I was the Main St. version of an Ave rat for most of my teen years). I went to Wilmington High briefly, and to James Groves (night school). I probably knew at least as many people at Dickinson, McKean, and Newark High as I did at any school I went to, though.

I've only met one DE person in Seattle - and I only found out he was when he wore a Deer Park Tavern tshirt to the Merc. *g*

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Born and raised. I try not to spread it about too much. :)

If he has a Merc membership, chances are that we've met or at least that I've served him some beverage...

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you have almost certainly met him, and i know for a fact that you served him a beverage the last time he and i were at the merc. he and maxx have a mutual acquaintance too. he was also with me at crash's moving to oz party.

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This is meant in the most friendly, respectful, and lack-of-intent way possible, but I was rather too busy checking you out at Crash's party to note who you were with. *g*

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we probably walked past each other on Main Street a hundred times. (I lived there '87 to '94 and used to come down to hang out a lot for another couple years after that.)

I used to divide Newark freaks into "A list" and "B list". the A list were the Newark freaks whom everybody knew or knew of. the B list were the freaks behind-the-scenes: the people who were easily overlooked by most people, but were friends with a lot of the A listers and were probably even weirder, but less famously so. I was mostly a B lister.

let's see...Newark weirdos we might both know: Doug Keener (he lives here now), Erin Sharwell (she does too...and she's married to Doug!), Matt Tuzzo, Mike Baker, Heather McCabe, any of the Nagoski family, Joel Rudnick, Jay Joslin, Chad who died in the barn fire and his weird friend Carla, Jen Cramer, Gary Geise, Tom Uffner, the gang who put on the Hut parties, Chris Gears, Steve Gwost, Bill Jaeger, the Staboszes (Dave and Reenie), that Gibby chyck, Lisa and Dave Toccafandi...

I've only met one DE person in Seattle - and I only found out he was when he wore a Deer Park Tavern tshirt to the Merc. *g*

crazy! who was it?

I finally wore too many holes in mine and can't wear it anymore. I still wear my UD dining services shirt sometimes though. and have an WXDR bumper sticker on my car. fuck VUD.

I looked at your userinfo and it looks like we have more weird interconnections than just sharon and newark: my best friend here in seattle works at house of gord with someone from your 2BM site and you seem to have my old drinking buddy corprew on your friendslist.

small town, huh?

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we probably walked past each other on Main Street a hundred times. (I lived there '87 to '94 and used to come down to hang out a lot for another couple years after that.)

I used to divide Newark freaks into "A list" and "B list". the A list were the Newark freaks whom everybody knew or knew of. the B list were the freaks behind-the-scenes: the people who were easily overlooked by most people, but were friends with a lot of the A listers and were probably even weirder, but less famously so. I was mostly a B lister.

let's see...Newark weirdos we might both know: Doug Keener (he lives here now), Erin Sharwell (she does too...and she's married to Doug!), Matt Tuzzo, Mike Baker, Heather McCabe, any of the Nagoski family, Joel Rudnick, Jay Joslin, Chad who died in the barn fire and his weird friend Carla, Jen Cramer, Gary Geise, Tom Uffner, the gang who put on the Hut parties, Chris Gears, Steve Gwost, Bill Jaeger, the Staboszes (Dave and Reenie), that Gibby chyck, Lisa and Dave Toccafandi...

I've only met one DE person in Seattle - and I only found out he was when he wore a Deer Park Tavern tshirt to the Merc. *g*

crazy! who was it?

I finally wore too many holes in mine and can't wear it anymore. I still wear my UD dining services shirt sometimes though. and have an WXDR bumper sticker on my car. fuck VUD.

I looked at your userinfo and it looks like we have more weird interconnections than just sharon and newark: my best friend here in seattle works at house of gord with someone from your 2BM site and you seem to have my old drinking buddy corprew on your friendslist.

small town, huh?

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Jay Joslin and I ran with much the same crowd, though we had too much conflict of personality to be true friends. I don't recall a lot of last names these days, but Heather McCabe and Mike Baker might have been folks I knew. Anyone who spent any time in Jimmy's Diner or the East End I knew at least in passing.

I spent a lot of time with the Newark LARPers (geeks and protogoths), and a couple Newark bands - Spindrift, Jake and the Stiffs, the Nazarites.

Which of the HoG crew do you know? My husband (there needs to be a better term for a complicated partnership, but that will suffice) is their IT guy.

Corprew rocks. :)

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oh! and if you're a Burner and you don't know

avocado_tom, you should look him up. he's with Fandango/Funk Camp and is a Newark freak from way back.

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Oh, and the person with the DP shirt was Patrick, aka

seedmoon.

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I knew Jay only in passing 'cuz he ran for mayor and was an ex-bf of McCabe's. Baker was tall and skinny and was prone to wearing fairly soiled tuxedos. McCabe and Tuzzo were both Eastenders (and djs at XDR/VUD). Tuzzo worked in the kitchen there for a long time and used to get fired every three days. if you hung out there a lot, you probably would know Uffner on sight. he was the long haired, greasy hippy Ayn Rand freak who looked like Lazlo from Real Genius and ran for mayor a few years before Jay did. he was the source of 90% of the acid in town and ended up in jail for a while.

wasn't Chris Gears in Spindrift? or am I confusing them with another band? anyway, I know I knew people who were friends with them. I think I saw them play at the Darn Bore in Wilmington one time.

were the Nazarites that reggae/ska act that used to play the Deer Park a lot?

my friend at HoG is Chris, their photo editor guy.

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Jay thought to boost his reputation by telling folks he had slept with me when he hadn't. It was a loooong time ago (I think I was 15 or 16), but that (and the thinly veiled heart-to-heart I sat him down for after) made for some tension. God, I remember when he ran for Mayor - his slogan was "Ruling with an Iron Ham". I also remember when two friends of mine (Michelle Morano, who worked at Days of Knights, and Jason McCollum, who never worked at all) got him to eat some vile concocttions by threatening to cut off that long, skinny, asymmetrical rat tail of his. Mean in retrospect, but funny at the time.

Did McCabe end up partnered to a gamer named Dave? And yeah, I totally remember the Lazlo-looking guy!

I don't remember what Spindrift's lineup was, except for a guy named Paul Budd and the singer Kevin, whom I dated. They did play the Darn Bore often and often. And yeah, the Nazarites were the band you're thinking off. I smoked more pot when I hung out at their place than I ever have in all the years combined since.

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ha. Iron Ham. makes me glad I voted for him.

Michelle Morano's name rings a bell. but the only friend I had who was a real DoK regular was Mike Sandler.

I don't think McCabe ever got paired up with a Dave, but she was friends with Dave Stabosz, who I think was a bit of a gamer.

I checked with my friend Erin and I was wrong...Chris Gears was in Clear, which was more of a garage punk act than Spindrift. turns out the reason Spindrift rang a bell was that my friend Jen Cramer was stalking their bass player Joe for a while.

the Nazarites were totally great! they were also in part responsible for the first (and almost only) time I ever picked someone up in a bar.

Erin also asked me to run any of the following by you:
Doug Weaver, Jeremy Menson, Zebo,
Andrea and her weird boyfriend Jason who shot himself in the head, of course Andy Ritchie and Jen Morgan and Sarah Lewis.

I didn't know any of those folks except Menson, and I remember not liking him very much for some reason.

thought of a couple gamer types and proto-goth types too: Shari Goldstein, Rob Schwabe, Mike Yablonski.

oh, and that fucker Jim Steele.

I don't know whether to be more amazed at how much I remember from back then or how hazy a lot of the memories are.

hey, if you like, I could make sure to drop you a line (directly or via sharon) the next time the delaware crew here in seattle is getting together for something. a variable subset of us get together for pool or drinks or the like at least once a month.

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damn! I seem to be having "anonymous" problems today. that last one, obviously, was me.

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Oh man. I just searched myspace for Jay Joslin. Dude finally came out of the closet. I bet he's much happier now.

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that surprises me very little.

I just heard over the weekend about an old Newark friend who, when I knew her, was an uptight, goody-goody virgin who went to St Marks. apparently since I last heard of her a couple of years ago, she's turned out to be a genderfuck s/m freak. that one did surprise me a bit.

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That's awesome. I turned out to be one of those myself (though "goody-goody" and "virgin" were never fairly applied to me). It makes me very happy that Newark turned out a few of us. I just heard from a Newark friend, kinda prim in my recollection, who's starting a kink website now.

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I don't think one can live there more than a few years without coming out at least moderately twisted.

but maybe my statistical sample is just skewed.

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awwww *blush*

deeply flattered, thank you. :-)

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