(yeah...i like some a capella stuff, but i didn't like the bobs. i can imagine a group like that being more fun--and i *definitely* admire good a capella, but i found much of their schtick tired.)
interesting. i would have thought venus in your sun sign would mean...love will predominate in your life, love will happen whether you want it to or not, whether you're "ready" for it or not. (huge disclaimer: my knowledge of astrology is that of a dilletante.)
funny, i think the same thing applies to love, that a friend of mine said about having a kid (he and his partner are expecting twins at the moment--due in april, a boy and a girl): "there's no such thing as a good time to have a kid. you just do it, and make it work."
having said that, i think it's good and mature and responsible to think about what your needs are, what works and what doesn't, in Love (you capitalize it...indicating a platonic essence, perhaps?). in my experience, this usually amounts to "learning from past missteps." and it is dangerous to go careening through life without examining such things. however, i also think it's dangerous to get to rigid with it, to compose huge laundry lists of desirable traits, deal breakers, and 10-year plans, because sometimes what you *actually* want and need is quite different from what you *think* you want and need (which is always filtered somewhat through what you think you *should* want and need). (i said something very similar to this in an email to a friend, not too long ago...)
the bottom line for me, or What I Have Learned About Relationships (fwiw, and ymmv a *lot*, of course): it's always a negotiation, give and take, evolution, adjustment, trying to find a balance point between comfort and discomfort, challenge to be "better" or to grow as a person, and the freedom to just be your bad self. acceptance and appreciation of another human being's beauties and eccentricities (large and small), with a "healthy" dose of skepticism and confrontation when said eccentricities feel disrespectful, incommensurable with your own, or otherwise pathological.
it's easy, right? lol--what do i know, i'm divorced and single.
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Date: 2005-12-30 10:51 am (UTC)interesting. i would have thought venus in your sun sign would mean...love will predominate in your life, love will happen whether you want it to or not, whether you're "ready" for it or not. (huge disclaimer: my knowledge of astrology is that of a dilletante.)
funny, i think the same thing applies to love, that a friend of mine said about having a kid (he and his partner are expecting twins at the moment--due in april, a boy and a girl): "there's no such thing as a good time to have a kid. you just do it, and make it work."
having said that, i think it's good and mature and responsible to think about what your needs are, what works and what doesn't, in Love (you capitalize it...indicating a platonic essence, perhaps?). in my experience, this usually amounts to "learning from past missteps." and it is dangerous to go careening through life without examining such things. however, i also think it's dangerous to get to rigid with it, to compose huge laundry lists of desirable traits, deal breakers, and 10-year plans, because sometimes what you *actually* want and need is quite different from what you *think* you want and need (which is always filtered somewhat through what you think you *should* want and need). (i said something very similar to this in an email to a friend, not too long ago...)
the bottom line for me, or What I Have Learned About Relationships (fwiw, and ymmv a *lot*, of course): it's always a negotiation, give and take, evolution, adjustment, trying to find a balance point between comfort and discomfort, challenge to be "better" or to grow as a person, and the freedom to just be your bad self. acceptance and appreciation of another human being's beauties and eccentricities (large and small), with a "healthy" dose of skepticism and confrontation when said eccentricities feel disrespectful, incommensurable with your own, or otherwise pathological.
it's easy, right? lol--what do i know, i'm divorced and single.